Yesterday…

I’ve been officially married in the eyes of God, the law, friends and family for five days now. Nothing much has changed. But that’s to be expected – because we have been married to each other for over two years in our own eyes. We made that commitment then, to each other and have lived by it since.

It’s amusing how much has not changed. And how much actually has. The things I would have bet good money on changing after our ceremony are absolutely 100% the same. I’m still a perfectionist, and she is still the perfect person for me.

We’ve spent many units of space time together, traveling through this life with each other in the last 2+ years. We’re each other’s companion, staying side by side through all that life throws at us. She is by far much more my strength than I hers. We have grown together, she has taught me patience that no one else ever has, and has taught me to be calm. Her opinion is the first to matter to me in a long time. Maybe that’s what love is about?

She now refers to me as her husband, and I refer to her as my wife. These are not possessive terms as much as they are self-proclamations of attachment. I attach myself to her when I call her “my wife” – not the other way around. For so long, the left has been shouting wrongness and irrationality at my that I didn’t realize how much they were wrong, and how calling someone “my wife” would affect me positively.

I am not her property, and she is not my property, except that we give ourselves to each other and have bound our lives together, equally and have been acting as husband and wife for 2 years – only now we are legally and socially allowed to use the titles of endearment for which roles we play. Life is good, it is simple, and it is the most complex it has ever been, it is terrifying and exhilarating all at the same time. It’s a hell of a thing, and I’m so happy to be sharing this journey with the woman who calls me husband.

Tomorrow…

Tomorrow is a new day, the end of this week, and the beginning of a couple in the eyes of the government, our families and friends.

I would say in the eyes of God, but we have made our commitment to each other long ago, and that is when, in the eyes of God, we were united as one in what we call a couple. This is when my life truly changed for the better. This is when I told myself I need to step up and be a better man, a better person. It’s been a long journey, emotional battles with myself and various events. My wonderful wife has been there for me in ways I never knew a person could. She has helped me grow and has helped me learn. Meeting her was the best thing I’ve ever done – and it all started with a plugin for a mod of a game made in 2009 by a balding Swedish independent game dev.

So, Tomorrow brings with it legalities, family jests, and hazing from friends. It brings a family together who has been separated far too long, and brings myself into a new family who I’ve already grown to love as my own. It brings the beginning of an annual celebration of our love for each other. Tomorrow is just the first of many of these celebrations, the biggest and the one we wish to share with our friends and family.

The next 4 decades are going to be a hell of a ride, and these passengers are as great accompaniment as any I could ever ask for.

More than a couple, companions through this adventure we call life.